regrets.

someone mentioned a typical scenario not too long ago about regret. when one is asked about their ambitions and goals set younger in life, did u achieved it by the end of your life. Many would say no, with family being a typical reason especially within then Asian upbringing. 'my parents had other plans for me' or 'my parents wanted me to do this' would be the typical answer would u not agree.

Siting here as my grandma sleeps on makes me realise so much more than just what my parents want for me, but the older generation's definition of FAMILY. this does vary between individuals but some of the older generation views family as all that we have at the end of day, and how family needs to stick together. they want n choose to meddle in some way to determine our future because they want what they didn't have or opportunities that weren't available to them. before u jump ahead and argue that shouldn't we dictate our own future, after all the phase 'your future is in your hands' has been drilled into our thick skulls at a very young age, to make the most out of life. Now this is often the crossroad that many young adults growing up in an Asian Culture face, do we do what we want or what our family wants for us.

Personally i think the decision is based on every individual, sit down and really think about what you want and the goals that your family has planned for you. take out of the equation family disappointment and all the emotional blackmail that might be used against you. Take some time off to reason out why the plans your family have tried to force upon you, gaining a better understanding on the reason behind it will give u a better approach in explaining your own plans to them. at then end of he day, you can either change your plans to align them to your family's expectations or set new plans with considerations. :)